In Memory of Deborah Laake

Deborah Laake, former staff writer, columnist, editor and executive at New Times, died Sunday in Charleston, South Carolina. She took her own life, ingesting an overdose of pills.

Laake, 47, was best known for her best-selling book Secret Ceremonies: A Mormon Woman's Intimate Diary of Marriage and Beyond. The book, published in April 1993, spent 15 weeks on the New York Times Bestseller List, rising to No. 8. There are more than 500,000 copies of the book in print.

After her book was published, Laake was diagnosed with cancer, and she left New Timesto spend much of the remainder of her life battling for health. In her last years of full employment at New Times, Laake served as executive managing editor, helping to oversee the then-five-member New Times Incorporated group of alternative weeklies.

Laake, who also worked as a columnist for the Dallas Morning News in the '80s, was a decorated journalist. She was named Arizona's Journalist of the Year in 1988. A judge for that competition said Laake's work possessed "extraordinary power, range and emotion." Another lauded "powerful and vivid writing that I seldom see in many newspapers." In 1983, Laake won a special citation from the University of Missouri for her feature writing. She won Arizona's feature column writing award in 1987 and first place from the National Headliner awards for feature writing in 1991. She was a finalist for the Nixon National Newspaper writing award in 1991 as well.

"Deborah Laake was a fearless writer," says her friend and colleague, New Timesexecutive editor Michael Lacey. "As an editor, she offered insightful guidance. I depended on her. Even during her worst moments -- in her struggles with cancer and depression and mental illness -- she was a lucid editor. I trusted her completely.

"I can remember her working on a story of mine while she was confined to a sanitarium following a breakdown. She had a phone in one hand, a flashlight in the other and a blanket pulled over her head so the guards wouldn't notice the after-hours activities.

"She was a wonderful friend, larger than life. When she wasn't driving you to drink with exasperation, she was invariably the most unforgettable person you'd ever met. My wife and I are crushed by her premature departure."

New Timeseditor Jeremy Voas called Laake "a singular journalist. As a writer, she was a model and inspiration for us all." He said Laake had hoped to regain the strength to return to a life of writing. She had done freelance writing and editing for New Times newspapers in the past few years. Her final piece for Phoenix New Timeswas published in March 1998.

Secret Ceremoniesis Laake's coming-of-age story about her life as a Mormon wife and woman. The book lifted the veil on the church's marriage rites and delivered searing and often funny commentary on what she viewed as a patriarchal and repressive social structure. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints excommunicated Laake for apostasy.

She is survived by three brothers.

Funeral arrangements are pending. A Phoenix memorial service for Laake is being planned. Information on that memorial service can be obtained by calling 602-744-6556.

 
  • John Karri 01/09/2011 1:53:00 PM

    as an ex mormon now, I was terminated for mental depression, not welcomed in perth Dianella temple ward Western australia. I was even to sick to sue that bishop from discrimination but hope that writing this may warn others how controlling mormonnism is, an elitist self-rightous arrogant organization that can lead anyone to suicide. It also broke up my marrige. It led me to sucide attempts and if anything strangly enough legal drugs as big no no in momonism saved me as it was in the mormon filthy rags of rightousness for god that was making me sucidal and depressed on fear and guilt trips. Not all relegions are are legalistic as mormonism..... thankou for reading this post. karri23@yahoo.com (welcome to email me)

  • Barbara Goodwin 10/12/2009 10:04:00 PM

    This is really late in coming but you'll see why. Please indulge me. Many years ago I lived in Phoenix and I became close friends with my next door neighbor, Deborah Laake. At that time she was Debbie Legler. We would often talk for hours on end and the thing that saddened me the most was how such a bright, funny, seeking person was so tormented by her Mormon religion, trying to find a way to be herself without compromising her faith. I saw her Mormonism eroding as she experienced various trials in her life, conflict with her parents, divorces and looking for creative freedom. Her questioning of all things were healthy but I could never convince her of that. Guilt tormented her. I know there were times when she was either in institutions or going through therapy of various kinds. She wanted to explore other forms of spiritualism but again she suffered with anxiety - would she go to Heaven or Hell? I moved to San Diego and she married for the second time. I visited her and her new husband in Salt Lake City and I could see she was still uneasy. She divorced and joined me in San Diego. I changed my religion and she enthusastically encouraged me to continue on my spiritual quest. Then we lost touch. I discovered her books and tried to reach her but at that time she was being protected by people at the Arizona Gazette(?) because of the controversy her first book might have insighted. I can't blame them. We were both writers and loved to laugh together so it was like I'd met a twin soul. But she was elusive, and I don't blame her for that either. I never forgot her and after Googling her I am deeply saddened to read that she died...by her own hand. I tried to encourage her over and over again that there was nothing wrong with her brain. That she had every right to explore this amazing life. I'm sorry but the Mormon Church did everything they could to destroy a perfectly wonderful human being by first stiffling, then threatening her. I will pray for her for the rest of my life and hope that somewhere in this Universe she can find the peace that she sought and come to understand that her fears were unjustified. None of her torment was necessary! Thank you for reading this...if you do.

 
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