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Steele: Well, no. I can tell you about re-creating your life the way you want it to be, and that I've re-created my life many times. I'm not very sexy. My message is, "You want results in your life? Well, you're going to have to work at it." Not sexy at all. But I won't take your money if you're not willing to work on yourself. I take payment up front, but if you're not working with me, I tear up your check.
NT: You're tearing up checks? Sounds like you need a life coach. Or a money manager. I noticed one of your rules is "Never complain." How is that even possible?
Steele: Energy is attracted to energy of a similar frequency. If you're complaining, you're attracting more things to complain about in your life. You're looking through the complaint detector.
NT: But what about people who really do have things to complain about? What about crippled people? Or ugly people?
Steele: You know, regardless of your situation, if that's what you focus on, that's what you're going to experience. I work with a lot of anorexic people who see a fat person when they look in the mirror.
NT: I looked through your workbook. One thing you tell people they must do every day, as soon as they wake up, is clap their hands and say, "I'm having a great day!" But how can you be having a great day if you just got up?
Steele: Because you didn't die in your sleep, and because you have another shot at your life, an opportunity to make it better. Which makes every day a great day.
NT: Okay. But do we really have to clap our hands?
Steele: In my program, yeah, you have to clap your hands. It's a way to fight that negative force that wants to pull you in. It feels silly to some people, but I don't have a client who doesn't end up clapping his hands by the second session.
NT: I'm sort of confused. In your program workbook, you tell your clients to go buy toothbrushes and body gel on the seventh day.
Steele: Absolutely! In my program, every seventh day is a shopping day.
NT: Woo hoo!
Steele:Yeah. Shopping days promote self-love. You buy yourself a new toothbrush to say, "I love myself."
NT: A Mercedes might say that more clearly.
Steele: Well, when you brush your teeth, you're taking care of yourself, which is an expression of loving yourself. A body gel with a certain fragrance sends a message to the brain that says, "I bought that; I like me."
NT: What if I'm only occasionally indecisive? Can I keep you on retainer in case I can't decide which wine to serve or what color socks to wear?
Steele: Choosing a wine? Uh, my main focus is to teach people to take control of their lives. I'm not a guru; I don't want to be credited with you changing your life for the better. And I don't want to make those decisions for you.
NT: It must work, because your Web site is full of great testimonials from people. My favorite is the one from Julie, a "former stripper and alcoholic."
Steele: Today, after doing my program, she's in her fourth year at a prominent university. She's walking dogs for money instead of, uh, what she was doing before. She's really taken control of her life, and re-created herself.
NT: Speaking of re-creating yourself, your name sounds like the name of a soap opera character. Is it real?
Steele:Read my book. It's all in there. But mostly what's in there is this message: You can either choose to end up someplace, or you can take yourself someplace better.