I really appreciate this column. I am native american, but was adopted into a mexican family, and grew up almost exactly like this columnist writes...that said, I also grew up in a very gringo, San Diego, California in during the 1970's.
My father was so over-protective, and yes, that comment would have been considered rude about the girl, as if her father didn't care enough about her to keep her protected from all the attention, or that she was basically a puta--slut. It is definitely a double standard.
I remember my first date, my father put a gun on the table and had an hour and half lecture with this poor white guy who just didn't understand what a big ordeal it was...luckily he liked me enough to put up with it! Anyway, I have tried to assimilate, and have my "white"-side too, but sometimes I just don't get caucasians either. You have to grow up that way...watch a lot of George Lopez HBO specials..to get it...lol.