I could have made a career and income to support myself, but instead I spent 28 years struggling to make ends meet. Now I face old age with no security at all. But then I made my choice.

Meanwhile, this family, consisting of myself and my three sons, does its best see that Drew is taken care of and survives each day. When I'm gone into the great beyond, I just hope that there is a government system that not only supports him, but does so with an adequate quality of life. It's looking grim out there, and it will get worse.

BJ Bolender, Phoenix
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how did Easter creep up on me like that? I had no idea tomorrow was easter until I received an electronic easter card from back east. I thought it was next sunday or the sunday after that. i mean, it's no big deal. I'm 52. It's not like I gotta run out and buy eggs and egg coloring for the kiddies. It's just that the year went so fast. it seems that easter was just a few wks ago.


BJ with all due respect - bite me.

You made a You made a decision, why should I have to pay for it?You were told in no uncertain terms exactly the kind of life Drew would have, in fact according to the article, you were told it would be worse.

Tell me did you mention in your interview that you and your husband deliberately sabotaged your careers to fraudulently get government assistance? Do you know how many men are in prison for sabotaging their careers and failing behind in child support? How is what you did different?

Ever think that had you worked, and had your family help out, you might have earned enough to provide for your sons care rather than relying on the tax payers? Do you know how close the country is to bankruptcy because of the war and moronic social welfare programs in this country?

You say your religion played no part because you don�t belong to a church, I never said church I said religion, and your comment about the great beyond shows you to have some sort of faith.

As to who should make such life and death decisions? The parents should, and guess what?YOU DID. You made the decision, and then after you made the decision you made another one - let society pay for it. Its like had you smoked all your life knowing the dangers and then once you had cancer you expect the government to pay for your treatment, hoe is that fair?

So tell me how is it working out? I know this sounds callous, hell it is callous, but what kind of life does your son have bouncing from home to home rarely seeing his family never in one place long enough to form relationships? That was the life YOU chose for him, not me, but you. And your upset with me because I would rather spend my money on my family rather than yours?

This wasn�t some horrible accident that happened to him later in life, something totally unexpected and unforeseen. It was a birth defect, one that would have caused, and one day will cause his death if not for constant medical intervention.

This is the life you chose for yourself, this is the life you chose for your family, this is the life YOU CHOSE for Drew. So again - why should I have to pay for your choice?


Homedepot Gang Fights?

What's with the battle between the Red shirt gang and the illegals ?I went to the Homedepot (McDowell - Phoenix, AZ) Saturday 3-15-08 at about 9 am and was run out of the parking lot by a big gang fight between two gangs. One gang of about 5 or 6 black guys (one was white) wearing red shirts that said something I could not read, and about 20 of the 40 hispanics that were hanging around looking for work.The biggest black dude was the one starting all the problems but with 20+ against five the red shirt gang was sure to get a beat down.There were 2x4 boards being used along with fist and a bunch of rocks, one of witch flew past me and smacked a car in the lot next to me, it was the size of a baseball and could have killed some one.I got the heck out of there as fast as I could not wanting to see someone get killed or very hurt.Homedepot needs to do something about this, it drove me off and I saw a few folks looking pretty upset. This is not going away and will only get worse, I am sure.Do they need a security guard to watch over the illegals ?Do I need to pack my 9 mill. just to go to the hardware store on Sat. morning for gods sake?Please tell me you have heard something about this incident?I saw at least 4 Homedepot employes standing around checking out the gang war.I'm from Kansas and this just may be run of the mill stuff I have to be apart of when I go to Homedepot ?Thanks for letting me voice my concerns.

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