On Dumping Pendejos and Not Sinking to Their Level

 Most Mexicans I know (myself included) feel it's a terrible disrespect to keep old photos of you and your ex around, and vice versa. I'd never keep pictures of me and an ex around to try and push my new/current boyfriend's buttons; I guess I feel it's a slap in the face. So, when a couple of old photos of my boyfriend and a couple of his exes flashed on his screen saver (they were hugging and kissing), I didn't flip out. Instead, I asked him about them, and told him they kind of make me feel a bit uncomfortable.

Please keep in mind I've never been accused of being the jealous type or an insecure mujer. I have a career and life of my own (i.e., I'm not always up his ass). He is white and I explained to him the best I could, saying I guess the Mexicans I know just don't do those things. I knew walking into this 'white world' that most whites have exes on Facebook as friends — hell, some even hang out with them. From my experience as a mexicana, that's a big no-no. I didn't say to him it was a deal breaker of any sort, so I'm sure I will deal with it — like I said, I knew dating a white guy that there would be times like these and I accept it. I guess I was just wondering if I was being insecure? Or is there a cultural difference here?
Dolores Dice

To paraphrase the Mexican's mariposa counterpart, Dan Savage: Dump the Pendejo Already (DTPA). It's one thing for a current partner to keep talking with their exes, quite another for them to keep photos of said exes in a place where they see them daily, and quite pendejo to have said pictures of exes hugging and kissing said partner and show them to their current beau. Sure, Mexicans are a bit more skeptical of maintaining a relationship with an ex-partner than gabachos, and that's due to a Catholic worldview deeming any previous partner as whorish and unworthy of further thought (unless in the safe zone of being borracho), but your man should've shoved those photos to his digital trash bin the minute he committed you. That he hasn't says more about him than you, Dolores — so please, DTPA.

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Know-Nothing Mexican-haters frequently misquote a report about the California prison population in 2006 by stating that 38 percent of the incarcerated males in Califas are illegal alien Mexicans. They state that "Mexicans," whom they see as all being illegal, should be deported. There is one fact that the racist pendejos, who are in denial about their sexual preferences, do not mention: 39 percent of the female population in California prisons in 2006 were white! In order to facilitate the Reconquista and reduce crime, do you think that white females should be deported to Europe?
El Habrano

No, we need gabachas to restart our mestizaje after the coming Aztlán-American War . . . Wait, is this thing on? What I meant to say is that original stat you cited — the 38 percent one — isn't too far off: That's the percentage of Latinos incarcerated in California carceles. But that number covers all imprisoned Latinos, legal and not. As we well know, though, Know-Nothings ignore such inconvenient facts in favor of the "findings" of hack think tanks like the Federation for American Immigration Reform and the Center for Immigration Studies, "findings" that our lamestream media usually repeat without question, thus confirming the suspicions of Know-Nothings, who repeat them and point to both said hack tanks and media as their citations when arguing. Like that oft-repeated lie that immigrants are more prone to crime than citizens? Debunked by most every legitimate researcher (including this one — buy my book!), yet you'll never see such reality enter their discourse. I appreciate your sarcasm, but just one quibble, Habrano: What does sexual preference have to do with anything? Hate the haters, but no need to use our mariposa brothers and sisters as slurs against Know-Nothings — otherwise, we're no better than them.

 
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AZLEGAL
AZLEGAL

Ok...for BOTH topics: First...if you're in the United States of America...SPEAK ENGLISH! Second: If you want to be here, be here legally..its true that Mexico has basically invaded the US, and now, we are fighting back! Third: If you are going to be here, and want to date a white guy/girl, get used to what we do. Yes, we talk to our ex's. My fiance still talks to his ex wife. I am completely fine with it. I know I can trust him. I talk with my ex's. He knows he can trust me! Fourth: I have REAL issue with people being up in arms about the new laws about immagration. If you're going to be in our country, do it legally! Don't take shit from us so we have to suffer just so you can have your fancy cars, huge homes and all that shit. If you come here pregnant, and expect that because you think the 'know-nothings' will have sympathy for you and let you stay here after your MEXICAN baby is born...sorry...take your anchor baby, get it off of my land and out of my country! Also...I happen to know that yes, quite a few immagrants come here legally. I also know that a lot of people come here illegally! If you're going to be here, don't hide from the law, don't hide from the government, take the test, get your citizenship, PAY TAXES, and GET A DAMNED JOB that is legal! Otherwise, there's the border, don't let it hit'cha where the good lord split'cha! I am disabled, and on SSI, and because of greedy mexican illegals, I don't get my full award grant, I don't get my medical, and I don't get the care I need. HOWEVER, the dirty, filthy disgusting family of 23 living illegally down the road in their LEGAL second cousin three times removed's home is living like fat cats because of the breeding like rabbits, getting on welfare, and getting on SSI, even though they work illegally at jobs that LEGAL citizens could have, but because they work cheaper, the illegals get the job! If you don't like the new law...and you're illegal or have a family member that is...STAY THE *%&( IN MEXICO!!!

Contrafax
Contrafax

No, we need gabachas to restart our mestizaje after the coming Aztl√°n-American War. Really? bring it. Remember what happened what happened last time Mexico and the United States of America went to war.. it seems some how the Mexicans misplaced some states... so. If you want to give us more of your land bring it on. Hell, our street gangs could probably take your army. It is only the cartels that would require our military.

Guadalupe Galarza
Guadalupe Galarza

first of all, learn how to spell. its IMMIGRANTS, second of all, Illegals CANNOT collect "welfare". only their children receive government help because they are AMERICANS like you. its not their fault their parents came here illegally. Also, EVERYONE pays taxes, illegals are screwed by the government because they CANT ever collect social security benefits. Like the other person stated, Americans DONT like doing the work illegals do and everyone knows that. America has ALWAYS enjoyed exploiting immigrants (the chinese, irish, japanese, filipino, . . . the list goes on and on)

by the way, using profanity in trying to make a point only ridicules you.

si supieras la verdad
si supieras la verdad

if u cant get ur medical care that u need in the U.S. do what all the other gringos do, go to mexico n get it cheaper... i never hear about old gringos complaining about how mexico has the same medical treatments for less than half the price. Also for your information some lazy americans cant handle the jobs that "illegals" do... that is why there is less than 1% of americans working the fruit n vegitable fields. even when the same illegals offered the lazy americans to take their jobs in the fields only 3 stepped up... so what does that say about americans

Carramflo
Carramflo

dont forget that santa anna was of european decent, as were most of the cowardly leaders who governed la tierra of our ancestors, including the french who sold louisiana to the other european brothers who occupied, (and still do to this date,) aztlan,and what is falsely called amerika and in general terms the entire western hemisphere(THE AMERICAS), where the europeans are still in control, but the evolution is begining to take place. no army will be needed.but we do resent european manipulation and denial of true history

 
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