I'm so sorry to hear about your son in law. I also believe that he was ill-prepared for this interview by his attorney.¬† Many times attorneys advise people to go to Juarez for their interviews and a very large number of them don't come back and so their effort not only was denied, but it backfired causing them to get pushed even further to the end of the line (if one such exists) I hate to agree with the person who advised for him to come in legally.. but¬† that might just be what saves your daughter's sanity, and keep the family together.¬† Pretty crappy, I know.¬†¬† But in the long run, and if the members of congress ever get off their asses and pass an immigration reform, I am hopeful that it will include pardons for all those cases that were unjustly told they can't come back for 10 or 20 years.¬†¬†
Immigration is a very unfair, unjust system that needs fixing bad.¬†¬† Those there who are supposed to enforce and apply policy don't see the big picture therefore don't know what the hell they're doing.¬†¬†
Sorry for this experience, sorry for the crappy advise I'm giving you but in reality like one migrant said to me.. "Its easier to come into this country illegally than legally."¬†¬† I know, I get it. SO SAD.