10 Signs You've Been Friend-Zoned

Guys, it happens to the best of us. Sometimes you're really into a chick, and she's only interested in you as a friend. Hopefully, she's forward enough to tell you that directly, but that's not always the case.

If you're wondering whether you've been friend-zoned or not, you probably have. Regardless, here are 10 surefire signs that you're firmly planted deep enough in the friend zone that it's time for you to move on.

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10. She talks to you about other women she thinks you might be interested in.

This can be a tricky one, because sometimes ladies just want to size up their competition and see what you have to say about your other potential options. For the most part, if your romantic interest is talking about other people she thinks you should or may be pursuing, it's probably not a good sign of her interest in you. She may not want you to date any of those women, but that might just be because some ladies never think anyone is good enough for their friends.

9. She describes you with similar positive adjectives to how she describes her dog.

We'd like to be clear about one thing, dogs are awesome. The problem with being described the same way as her dog, is that she (most likely) isn't interested in being romantically involved with her dog. When she starts to use the same words (friendly, silly, adorable, etc.) for you as she does for her beloved puppy, take that as a serious friend-zone warning sign. After all, it's (wo)man's best friend, not anything more.

8. You go to get food together and hang out a lot, but it's never really a date.

There's a fine line between "friendly dining experience" and actual date, but it's one you have to figure out if you're going to recognize when you've been friend-zoned. The easiest way of determining this one (other than just asking) is to go to one restaurant that's clearly a date spot. Dress up a little bit and go to a somewhat fancy restaurant. Treat it like a date, if she seems weird about it, then it definitely wasn't a date. Also, if it's early in your possible friend-zoning, there's no harm in asking whether it's a date or not.

7. She consistently tells you what an awesome friend you are.

A lot of the time, when a lady is trying to get the message across to a guy that their relationship will only ever be platonic, she takes an extra effort to tell the guy how much he means to her as a friend. Part of this is probably to reinforce the "friend" aspect, but it's also likely because she doesn't want to lose you as a friend when you eventually give up on getting in her pants.

6. The two of you go out and/or drink together, but she's never made a move.

If she doesn't make a pass at you while sober, then there's still a chance that she just doesn't think it's "ladylike" to openly hit on a guy. We're hoping that eventually that social norm changes -- and takes some of the pressure off of guys to always make the first move. For now, a lot of women (and men) are much more honest with how interested they are in you when they've got a solid buzz going, so if she still doesn't seem interested in you after a couple drinks, it may just be time for you to accept your role as a friend and move on.

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Josh Chesler
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