10 Tips for Avoiding the Friend Zone
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While escaping out of the friend-zone is only slightly easier than scaling the walls to escape the pit in The Dark Knight Rises, there are times when we accidentally place ourselves deep in the friend-zone when we could've been so much more.
We're not saying these will work in every scenario -- because sometimes it's just not meant to be. But here are 10 of tips for avoiding the friend zone in the first place.
See also: 10 Signs You've Been Friend-Zoned
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This is particularly true for guys. As much as they seemingly hate to use emojis, we've found that nearly every other text we send to a person we're interested in involves some form of smiley face or random food item. The fact is, it's 2015 and emojis are an absolutely acceptable tool for flirting.
Communicate that you're attracted.
You'd be surprised by how many times you hear someone say "so-and-so always thought you were cute" and the person had no idea. There are a lot of people out there who view themselves as significantly less attractive than you think they are. If you tell the person that you think they're hot and they just want to be friends, then there's a fair chance they'll just take it as a compliment (as long as you weren't creepy about it). Trust us, it's better to know and not be interested than to find out that both of you were holding back after it's too late.
Be confident, but not cocky.
It doesn't matter who you are or what you're into, confidence is attractive. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, which isn't one to be overstepped, but remaining humble while projecting confidence is one of those intangibles that can make a person a thousand times more attractive. Call it swagger or bravado or whatever you like (please though, not "swag" as an adjective), but you're going to be a lot less likely to get stuck in the friend zone if you have a positive attitude (even if you don't feel so awesome) than by talking about all of your problems right off the bat.
Know what topics to talk about.
While we're on the subject of talking about your problems, one of the most overlooked aspects of friend-zoning yourself is what your conversations with the person consist of. By no means are we saying that you need to start talking about how hot the person is or anything of that nature, but sometimes it's good to remind them that you're both really, really ridiculously good-looking. If you're constantly talking with them about things they'd likely discuss with their friends, then you're more likely to end up as a friend. Guys and girls will at least give you a chance just because you're "interesting," so keep the conversation out of the friendly monotony.Next Page
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