Interviews

ASU Alum and Ex-Porn Star Dave Pounder on Dating and Obscene Thoughts

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What prompted you to write Obscene Thoughts? I wrote Obscene Thoughts because American social norms regarding sex, love, and relationships are completely inconsistent with what science knows and what most people experience anecdotally.

What do you want people take away from Obscene Thoughts? This book is for anyone who wants an honest understanding of the evolved gender differences of men and women, and how those differences affect human mating, courtship, and relationships.

My hope is that readers will walk away with a fresh look at human sexuality and have frank discussions about the merit of the claims posited in the book.

You make some controversial points about gender, sexuality, pornography, etc. in your book. What statements would you say are getting the most opposition from women? From men? Most women are upset when I argue that an overwhelming majority of men are sexually unfaithful in their relationships; and that the ones who aren't typically haven't chosen to be faithful but rather have nobody with whom to cheat (i.e., they lack options). Despite the endless evidence supporting this claim, many women are still very uncomfortable with the idea.

Men mostly agree with the arguments in the book.

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