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How to Be a Successful Sugar Baby

In this week's cover story, Sugar U., New Times writes about the growing number of Arizona college students dating sugar daddies (older wealthy men) to cover the exorbitant cost of tuition.

In some ways, these mutually beneficial relationships are like traditional romantic relationships, but in other ways, they're quite different. 

Victoria, a University of Arizona student with three sugar daddies, lays out what it takes to be a good sugar baby and have a successful sugar-dating experience:

8) Don't ask, don't tell.
Don't talk about relationships outside your arrangement because you will get hurt. Talking about these things creates an unnecessary level of emotional attachment that men don't understand.


7) Never share your problems.
Men want a happy, beautiful, smiling girl who is glowing and has goals, not someone who cries and whines. They have enough drama with their ex-wives, non-sugar girlfriends, kids, and jobs.
 
6) Don't have unrealistic expectations.
To make the lifestyle work, you need to be comfortable with less money or less whatever than you're hoping to get out of it. Otherwise you'll be disappointed.

5) Always let the guy suggest an amount of money at the beginning of an arrangement.
Asking makes you shady.

4) Always give the impression that you're trying your best in life.
Whether it's with grades, your job, or taking care of a pet, men are motivated to help you if they see you're trying hard.

3) Never ask for money outright, even if you've been together for a while.
There are better ways to ask or suggest they give you money: "I could really use your help with XYZ," "I could buy this, but it costs XYZ."


2) No drugs, no drinks, no drama.
Drama is an addiction, too. All those things will ruin an arrangement.

1) Always hold your head high.
Practice confidence. If people call you a prostitute, a slut, or a whore, tell them, "No, I'm worse." It will stop them in their tracks and leave them perplexed. Remember, it's your money, not theirs.

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Miriam is a staff writer at Phoenix New Times.
Contact: Miriam Wasser